Looks like you’re going to be fired. How to dispose of the situation
Here’s how advised to come under such threatening circumstances on the pages of the American magazine U.S.News & World Report Alison Green, a psychologist specialist in personnel.
Throw back your damaged “I” to your side. Of course, I want to defend myself against criticism. However, concentrating on the idea of protection, either on the notion that your boss is a madman, or a tyrant, or in this case makes a mistake, you can prevent yourself from analyzing the situation objectively. There are cases where everything could be resolved, but this did not happen, because the person did not want to listen to criticism, erecting the wall on her path. Even if your boss is a tyrannous character warehouse, you will only hurt yourself if you do not listen to the comments with an open mind.
Move your “I” further and direct your feet to the manager by dropping the defensive rack. Tell the boss: you know that you are dissatisfied and you would like a council to improve your performance. It’s not about protecting yourself, even if, of course, you make sure the boss is mistaken. Such a step is needed to hear the boss whether he is right or not, because even if the boss is objectively mistaken, you need to fully hear the answer for choosing further actions.
Whatever you think about evaluating your boss, the reality is that the boss has better ideas about whether or not this job is right for you. So now, when you know the manager’s opinion, you need to answer the two questions: Will you deal with what you are asking for? and do you want to do this? There is no reason to leave an honest answer.
In some cases, the waiver of defense, sincere attention to the manager’s remarks, the recognition that they may be a well-known truth, can help turn the negative trend backward. There are cases where workers from very weak indicators in the work achieved exceptional success. This should not be forgotten.
In other situations, you can decide that you can not or do not want to do what the boss insists on. If you and the boss share the opinion about the lack of good prospects in this workplace, there is one relatively non-traditional, but often surprisingly effective, approach to the problem. Return to the boss with the statement: “Thank you for being frank with me. I will try to improve the work, but it seems to be realistic to approach the prospect that this may not work. I would like to know if we could think of a smooth transition for both of us on Was not you against continuing to work with me while I start looking for a new place? It will help me, and you will have the opportunity to find a replacement, and I will help the successor to get to know the working conditions more quickly. ”
As a rule, managers have no objections in such a situation – who would like to dismiss an employee if this can be avoided? By making such a proposal to the bosses, you increase the chances that this is exactly what will happen. You will have time to find a new place, you will not need to explain the reasons for dismissal subsequently, and you can control the situation to a greater extent than with another outcome.
But before getting on this path, you need to clearly represent the culture of relationships in the company and install your manager, as you can hear in response that, say, “it seems you are fired, well, and we agree.” So, act cautiously.
Regardless of which way you choose, the main thing, be honest with yourself and take everything without prejudice. Do not ignore warning signals in the hope that you will somehow be able to slip through. Take an active position, know, nothing shame, if you can not overcome something – solve your problems without hiding in the bushes.